July 30, 2010
I hve 3 girls, 8, 6 and 7 months, 3 bedroom house, who gets her own room?
By Planet Wealth
Right now I am renting a 2 bedroom, I rented it before I got pregnant with #3. Now I am purchasing a home, it’s 3 bedrooms, I still want my 6 and 8 year ancient to share, they have so much in commom, and are only 2 years apart, I can’t imagine winnie the pooh and Hannah Montana sharing a room!
But my mom, and their dad, and the kids, all reckon my oldest should get her own room? Why?
It doesn’t make sense to me. Ultimately it is mydecision, I run my house, but am I being ridiculous?
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July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
I agree with you.. the 8 yr ancient and the 6 yr ancient should share rooms.. that way if the small one crys or is wanting to sleep in. No reason why the other two who have to go to school should be disrupted with that noise. Worked for me in my house.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
the 8 and 6 year ancient would get a long, but it can be nice for the oldes to have her own room….at this point, let the baby have her own space so the 6 year ancient isn’t woken all the time by the baby. when they’re older you can let the girls choose who shares….
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
The older one should have her own room. She will need her space and privacy soon when she goes into puberty.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
The oldest should have the room. She is probably feeling a small left out, she is not the baby anymore, two times over. I’m sure that you have alot on your plate with the baby, and it would make her feel really special to have her own space. To know that you were thinking of HER and HER ALONE. All in all it is your house, do what you reckon best, we do not know your daughters and you do. Excellent luck
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Question your girls, i bet they tell you just what they want. I also agree that for now the baby should be in her own room so she doesn’t disturb the older girls who need their rest. You have 3-4 years before you’re eldest one starts worrying about her privacy and who knows maybe by then you’ll have a larger house. Just relax and remember "Mum knows best"
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Nothing incorrect with the 2 oldest sharing a room. Your family is being ridiculous. Putting one of them in with the baby is absurd. Always trust your own gut instincts because most people are right with that 99 % of the time.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
i htink that the 6 and 8 year olds should share…it will help there bonding and all that, but i do reckon once the 8 year ancient gets older, she should be able to have her own room.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
No your not being ridiculous, It seems honest that you dont seperate the closest at the moment, and while your bub is still this young i reckon that she needs her own room, she needs her sleep and so do your other kids. The way i see it is theres honest points on both sides.
2 oldest together:
-They are very close and would go well together
-Your youngest needs sleep and would get alot more if (if they do get up) the kids wernt getting up and banging into things and waking her.
-your oldest (whoever would share with bub) dont have to go back to there young years of winnie and baby stuff.
-The baby wont wake them during the night if she crys and then you wont have to place up with 2 kids crying.
on the other hand:
-You baby might not like being alone
-The oldest girl might want her own room
-Seperating them now might be simpler then doing it later on (if you ever have to).
I reckon it would be a excellent thought to sit down with your two eldest and question them what they reckon, ultimatley your trying to make your kids pleased not other people, but if your youngest still wakes at night i probably wouldnt be making her share a room, or if your other daughter is bound to wake her during the night then i wouldnt either, a baby needs there sleep and when shes a bit older who’s to say you cant change it around.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
It’s normally the eldest that would get a room, then they go out and another will go into hers ..that type of thing. but, if you’ve reason not to do that i.e as people get on better, then there’s no harm in that. It’s your house and as long as you clarify to the kids what’s going on and why then am sure all will be ok. you make the decisions not your mum etc …just go with what you reckon. you’re the one that has to live with the choice
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Sounds like you have already made the right choice.
Stick to your guns. You know your kids better than anyone.
Congrats on the new home.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Your kids are about the same age difference in mine. I reckon the two older kids should share the room for the present. The younger one will probably disturb the older and that wouldnt be a excellent thing when its school days. Their ages are so similar that sharing the room wouldnt be too terrible. They might kick up a fuss at first, but they will get used to it. In a few years the oldest girl will be wanting privacy etc but you can sort that out at the time as I would imagine you have a few years to go yet. Even though they are young they can learn to respect each others things so they can share the room with no problem. They will probably grow to delight in it. So stick to your guns.
Excellent Luck
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
The oldest should get her own room
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
The baby gets the room until she is ancient enough to sleep in a toddler or regular bed. Then the oldest should get the room. It is a right of passage.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
I have to agree with you, baby should get his/her own room. For now… you can always switch up down the road by giving the oldest a room later… baby is going to be waking up through the night and i know we as parents lose sleep for quite awhile after a small bundle of joy is born, but there’s really no sense in your other small ones losing sleep either by being in the same room. Your oldest might feel left out by this though, but i’m sure making her feel vital in helping take care of the baby will make her feel really vital. It will all work out!!!
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
I would have the oldest 2 share and give the baby her own room. The baby has completely different toys, sleeping schedule, and needs. The older 2 daughters share toys and can blend in Hello Kitty and Hannah Montana.
I would apologize to your parents, and simply say that the older girls are used to sharing a room and you aren’t in a rush to split them up and change things. Maybe in a fe years when your oldest is 12 or 13, but not now.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Your right Ultimately it is your choice, but try weighing the Pros and Cons, even if you have to sit down and write it all out.
With 6 & 8 year ancient sharing a room:
Pro:
- Common Interests
- Close in age
- 7 month ancient won’t be disrupting anyone
Con:
- 8 year ancient becomes independent as she gets older, not to mention the puberty
- 6 year COULD, not to say she will, but even though they’re only two years apart, the 6 year ancient could soon gain the status of the annoying small sister that follows huge sis around, hence making conflict
With 6 year ancient & 7 month ancient sharing a room:
Pro:
- Allows the 8 year ancient privacy, making her feel special
- Gives you the opportunity to be creative and incorporate two completely different disney characters together
- The 6 year ancient can KINDA be the eyes on the back of your head, if she’s playing in her room and the baby’s in there she most likely would alert you of things the baby is doing, that she might reckon is terrible or something of the sorts.
Con:
- If 6 year ancient does alert you they tend to do it quite often and it might be come irritating.
- 7 month ancient might keep 6 year ancient up at night
- 6 year ancient will eventually want privacy and the span in age is quite different.
- Less common interests
- 7 month ancient will eventually hit toddler years and might get into 6 year olds things.
- 6 year ancient might do things you don’t want her to do with the baby, like try to pick them up on their own or things like that (not sure how you are with that)
Anyway I was just giving you some thoughts, maybe things you didn’t reckon of, some you may not even agree with. Everyone’s different, Just give it a shot though, nobody knows your girls better than you though. Another suggestion sit down with the 8 and 6 year ancient, maybe they might have thoughts to help you out. Kid’s minds are incredible, and sometimes thats where you gotta go to see the most creative thoughts. Excellent luck with everything. I hope it all works out.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
You could go either way, but I reckon youre right that your 6 & 8 should share because of baby stuff, and the 8 year ancient can help set a excellent example for the 6 year ancient on how to deal with a lot of stuff. Remember the t.v. show with the olsen twins??? Congrats on the new house.
July 30th, 2010 at 5:35 am
Place the baby in the room alone. Nothing worse than an 8 yr ancient being woken up in the middle of the night by crying.
My daughter’s are 3 years apart and we have a 5 bedroom home and they STILL share a room. They like it that way. They delight in talking before they go to sleep and knowing their best friend is right next to them.
Keep it how it is. That way the go doesn’t affect them negatively.