August 20, 2010
My ex has shown our 10 year old daughter how much he pays in Child Support?
By Planet Wealth
I am disgusted that my ex show our 10 year ancient daughter how much he pays in Child Support when he had no right to involve her in the monetary side of things. He may pay a large amount of Child Support for our daughter but he is on a high income and I am on a low income. When we went through Divorce I walked away with nothing out of the marriage. He got to stay in the rented home I had to go out and start again. I was entitled to some of his super but he wouldn’t give it to me and chucked shared care in my face if I took him to Court. So yeah I walked away and let him have the lot. I had no money to fight this because I could not get legal aid for property settlement and could not get legal aid for family court proceedings. I took care of his children for a few years whilst he went to work, whilst his ex went to work, I also looked after my two sons and our daughter. I got no recognition for what I did. He had the attitude because I did not earn the money and he did I had no right to it. Yet he was pleased to use me as a live in baby sitter and do home duties. Not long after the divorce he bought a new car and bought a home with his new spouse. I was left to pay rent and struggle. I did manage to get a block of land with 5% deposit from an inheritance and have to pay that off. I have since went on and went in with another man and made a new life. But if my ex husband gave me some money out of the property settlement I could have place that on my block of land and reduced my repayments. But because he was so petty about this I have had to struggle to pay the loan off when in fact it has affected my income and yeah made things hard. My daughter has a nice home to live in and attends a regular school. She is cared for. It upsets me that he has to show her how much Child Support he pays when he had no right to do this. I do not assess the Child Support he has to pay the Child Support Agency does and it goes on how much he earns, I earn, and the amount care each party has. Without the Child Support Agency I am pretty sure I would not get any money or be small changed every week.
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August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
He can show he whatever he wants (about the child support), if your daughter’s smart, it will just show her how petty he really is. She probably questioned him for something (ipod, clothes, whatever) and he didn’t want to cough up the cash for her so he felt like he had to show her that he sends the money for that kind of stuff to you and you should be getting it for her. Blah, Blah, sounds like an ass, but there really isn’t anything you can do about it. Just stay cool, quit letting this guy get you all upset.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
If you have a problem with it, stop cashing the check.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
Have you always made a huge deal over life issues? Why don’t you stop worrying about things you can’t change, be thankful that your husband supports his child. You can’t control everyone and everything. Your daughter and husband have a realtionship that you don’t approve of everything…..so what……you can’t change it by being mad.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
.Would you rather have your daughter unaware that her father contribues to her upbringing.
By the way, how much do you spend of the maintainance on your daughter ?? (bet its not all of it)
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
Gee, I can’t imagine why he wanted to divorce you.
It’s his money and his child. He has every right to show her. You are just pissed because you don’t want your daughter to know that her bills are paid by her father.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
I feel for you, but being the father he has every right to share whatever information he thinks fit and that does include what his child support payments are. It would be that same with religion. He would have every try to share his religious views with his child even if they go against your beliefs. What I don’t know is why you reckon it best to keep your child in the dark. Fine she now knows a number it doesn’t change anything. How about you teach your child percentages and show he how much more you give than her father, but that would be petty. We teach by example everyone day, every hour and every minute of our lives.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
Just tell your child that YOU feel this is an ADULT subject. Done.
"he was pleased to use me a a live in baby sitter and do home duties"….newsflash Darling, you chose to do those things.
And, divorce is expensive- the rent you paid, the land you got to buy and the new lie you have- were they not worth the investment in change for your life? You bet they were. Stop being envious of what your ex husband has been able to buy. It’s no longer your concern.
Go on to your new life and live well.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
he has a right to show her that money doesn’t grow on trees… because if it does then you should grow one… LIFE IS REAL LIFE ALL THE TIME.. NOT WHAT YOU WANT SEEN
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
You wrote small about the context. Did he show her and complain, did he show her to make her know daddy is contributing and likes her? And how do you get to feel shortchanged on something that was never yours to start with? Has it gotten so terrible, that in a divorce women now expect a bit payoff?
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
seeing as you place your business out here i have got to say that living with a man you’re not married to is a lot worse for you 10 y.o. daughter than knowing how much money her bio dad pays for her support.
August 20th, 2010 at 5:40 am
I know your frustration. I as a father show my daughter (10 years ancient) how much I pay for child support as well; because I want her to SEE what may be misconstrued. A small background on my situation, my ex-wife walked away (no mental, physical, sexual, verbal abuse) and chose not to let me have a say in it (this is a reoccourring issue; she did the same thing to her oldest daughter’s dad). She met a man (her best friend’s dad – NO JOKE who was still married) and had another child with him. He’s retired and dosen’t want her to work. She refuses to work, refuses to pay child support (She’s $6,000 in arrears) has had her license suspend (still drives) gets $412/month from me (did I mention I have my daughter every other week) and gets $400/month from her oldest daughter’s dad (who never gets to see her even though he has visitation and joint custody). She has 2 new vehicles and a home of her own. Me listing all the shit she’s done and pulled in contempt (found guilty twice); this would be 3 times this long. So I show my daughter so my daughter knows what support I’m giving financially to her mom. She knows I like her because not only do I support her when I have her; I support her when her mom has her too. I just wish child support was not a end around for spousal support. He pays it it’s his money he has a right to let his daughter see; are you misappropriating his support? U seem defensive