August 8, 2010
Neighbours have REALLY noisy kids!?
By Planet Wealth
I share a wall with these people and our bedrooms back onto each other. The things screams every few nights at any hour it wants for 3mins and more, as well as most of the day. I am pulling my hair out! The parent is a young unmarried girl who doesn’t seem to care if it has tantrums, and ignores it!
If I approach her about she gets mad and upset and its her child and she can rise it how she wants! Which seems to mean that she lets it ‘weep out’.
I’ve slept on the couch and I can still hear it. Truth be told, when I’m that frustrated and tired, I have slept in my car. We are all renting, I’m wondering if I should approach the Real Estate about it?
Yes, I am young and single with no kids myself, but I reckon we are all entitled to some peace and silent? The couple on the other side of me have a 2yo as well, and I hardly ever hear boo outta them! Yes, their kid screams evry now and then, but that’s not unreasonable. The other one is.
Please, if anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated!
Sorry, typo, it’s 30 mins, not 3. And I forgot to mention that its a 2yo.
Topics: renting shares | 18 Comments »
18 Responses to “Neighbours have REALLY noisy kids!?”
Comments
« Are there any good forex books by authors that actually make money on trading? | Home | help with boxing day sales? »
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
You should go to a place where there are no children. Someone who uses gender neutral pronouns to describe a child, needs to be as far from other humans as possible.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Tantrums are to be ignored.
Be compassionate, you may have a child who is as temperamental as her child if you aren’t.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
I’d turn her in to the landlord, call child services on her and if it’s terrible enough, CALL THE POLICE!
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
As long as their being noisy in between the time regulated by your area (usually like 9am-9pm) then its really none of your business and if you’ve got an issue then either suck it up or go.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
first, there is a HUGE difference with a new baby and a 2 yr ancient. you dont know her situation, she could have a baby with colic or something else causing it to weep. just reckon how she feels! im sure she doesnt want to hear her baby weep and she is stuck right there with it with no help!
I have lived in an apartment and thats just the dice you roll living in one. sometimes you get incredible neigbors and times you get people who stink so terrible you can smell it in your own apartment coming through the walls!!!! lol
theres nothing that the management at your aparments is going to do about this. if it was noisy teenagers throwing parties or something like that ya. but not for a crying baby.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Contact your manager and tell them what’s been going on. If nothing is resolved quick then contact the manager again and again. Usually towns have a noise curfew so question the manager to enforce it. You could also call Child Protective Services and tell them the kid is screaming and crying all the time, not sure if she’s being hit by parent or what…that’ll get them over there. If all else fails, go.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
When young kids have tantrums, you’re suppose to ignor it, so that they will relize they’re not going to get attention from it, thus, learn to stop. Raising kids is hard & it’s impossible to get them to act prefect. Different children act different ways, some cool & some are not, this one, is not. You must not have approached the mother in a very cool, nice, & understanding way, & that is why she gave you attitude. Until you have children of your own, you won’t know. It’s just a risk you run when renting. You can question the landloard to be went to a different apartment room, but he has no rights to kick this lady out so you can have peace & silent.
*Child protective services are not to be called for annoying parents or crying babies/toddlers. That is a waste of their time & unfair to the child & their parents. Just because a child doesn’t behave perfectly gives you know right to try to separate that mother & child or to give any body any problems. Shame on you to anyone who would suggest such a heartless thing, what a poor excuse to give them a call.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
It’s too terrible we can’t all live in houses. I remember my oldest child wouldn’t go to sleep without screaming for fifteen minutes, and he was so loud my neighbours called the police! If you are concerned that this woman is abusing her child, then you should report her to child protection services.
But you said the child is only screaming for about two minutes so that really doesn’t seem unreasonable to me. I’ve lived near college kids that make more noise than that.
If she leaves the baby to scream for more than an hour, report her. You are only supposed to let a child "weep it out" for fifteen minutes. Any longer than that IS abuse.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
I ignore my son’s tantrums.
She is doing her best. There isn’t much you can do with a young child who does not know why he needs to be silent.
If the boy is really young, she cannot communicate to him why he needs to stop crying and screaming.
My two year ancient wants to play with scissors time to time when he sees me cut something. Am I supposed to give him the scissors to keep him silent? I don’t reckon so.
He cries and throws himself on the floor over it, but oh well. I’d rather listen 3 minutes of his crying than having to take him to the E.R because he poked his eyes out.
Be more understanding, raising a child alone is not simple, especially a young child who does not know language and commands just yet.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Its just something you are going to place up with . Perhaps you will be more informed when you have kids yourself .
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
The parent is a young unmarried girl who doesn’t seem to care if it has tantrums
Why did you have to add that? there are PLENTY of married couples who don’t care if their kids have tantrums.
Anyways, next time you hear screaming, call the cops and tell complain about the noise.There isn’t much you can do.Complain to your lanlord.I’d just let the lease run out and go elsewhere.Personally, I reckon it is very rude to just ignore tantrums.Other people don’t need to listen to that shit and its fucking rude to not do anything about it..especially when your kid’s wall is right next to someone elses.BUT..it does come with the territory of renting.Amusing how people jump all over the ass of those complaining about loud kids yet if someone complains about a dog barking, they are in sync with them.Hypocrits I tell ya.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Well, first thing to remember is that all children are different. There are some kids who will runa parent ragged and will scream non-stop. There are others who are best described as: Mouses. So dont assume that her parenting is in question. As a mother of 3, I cannot tell you how FRUSTRATING and MADDENING it is when some ‘person’ who has NO children PRESUMES to tell me how to raise my kids. SORRY, but ‘alot of babysitting and childcare’ is NOTHING compared to real parenting.
To top it off, any excellent parent knows that temper tantrums are too be ignored, or they WILL get much worse. How ancient is this child? Age differences by even 3-6 mos, mean HUGE differences in development. Instead of thinking how much it bothers YOU (and ONLY YOU), I would try considering how she must feel being a single-mother with small or no help with a screaming child. Imagine how her ears feel, if it’s that loud for you. If you really have an issue with living there, I would go, since it would be much simpler for you (being young and single) than for her as a single-mom. Why make things more hard for her than they already are?
Solution: Maybe try offering your help to her, instead of your incorrect and unwanted parenting advice. Question her if there’s something you can help her with. Reckon how GRATEFUL she would feel if you watched the kid for her for 10 mins once in a while or while she went to the grocery store (for some peaceful shopping). As a former single-mother, you have NO IDEA how HARD it is.
PS: Stop thinking of yourself in this situation. And CPS is for serious child ABUSE, not b/c you dont like to hear her kid scream for 2-3 mins! Do you have any thought what that will do to her AND her child if you call down CPS on her for something stupid like that??!! WTF are you thinking?! BTW, most housing ‘noise’ curfews DONT apply to babies crying
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
What kind of person refers to a baby as a "thing" or "it"
Imagine what they have to go thru putting up someone like you. Ugh.
That’s expected when you live in apts/duplexes, either wear plugs or go.
Babies weep and they dont time themselves for 15 minutes, he could have colic, mine had it and she cried for hours on end.
What do you want the police to do arrest her for having a colicky baby, dont be ridiculous.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Oooh, there’s a reason they call them terrible twos. They’re pretty willful at that age and being a single mother must be exhausting. Having to clean, work, cook, and take care of that child. She may be a small inexperienced and not know how to handle the tantrum but it seems she is doing what she knows best.
Also, if the child does have tantrums as much as you say there is a possiblity the child is autistic.
You can go but try and know that taking care of a child by yourself is a tiring job. Try and stand in her shoes for a a small bit. She’s probably getting less sleep than you.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
I hope when you have kids of your own and finally know what the hell you’re talking about, you have equally miserable neighbours who have no thought what it’s like to be in your shoes and complain and upset you for simply going about your business and raising your child in the best way you can. And I hope by the time you have kids you’ve bought at least enough respect to recognise the fact that they’re humans, and calling a child ‘it’ is no different to someone referring to yourself as ‘it’ or ‘that’.
Until then, I suggest you go house.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
Children do wake up a ALL hours, and they weep, many times for more than three minutes. Most mothers truly care that their child is crying, but sometimes the kid just needs to learn to place itself back to sleep. If the child is crying constantly then report your neighbor. It really does not sound like that is the case. Also, you probably do not hear the other neighbors because there are TWO adults to deal with the one child, and it does not sound like they are next to your bedroom.
My advice: place yourself in your neighbors shoes, and buy some ear plugs.
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
if you have that much of a huge problem with it go and knock on her door question her if you could mind the child for a few hours and see what results you come up with
August 8th, 2010 at 12:51 am
To be honest, the second you referred to this woman’s child as an "it" described what a selfish, immature individual you are and immediately showed that you are most likely exaggerating the circumstances. If the child is only screaming for 3 mins, get over it. If the child is screaming during the day, deal with it, kids make noise during the day, it’s a fact.