August 17, 2010
Please share with me your thoughts on this?
By Planet Wealth
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we are renting together we are both 27
He is going away camping this easter long weekend from thurs night till monday with his family as its a tradition, they do it every easter as he rides a bike and they dirt bike ride.
He invited me go to with him as he said he wants me there but I cant as I have to work on the saturday and not a huge fan of camping anyway.
Is this incorrect him going for this long with his family over easter or honest enough? Shouldnt he be with me?
Please give me your honest thoughts?
I reckon he should have grown out of this now but he does it every year….
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August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
well, it’s a family tradition, and Im sure he likes it! He did question you to go, it’s not like he left you out! I wouldn’t hold him back from it. And why should be have "grown out of it"??
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
u should go it shows a cute gf!
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
sounds like he has a fantastic relationship with his family , which i reckon is a fantastic quality because it shows u how he well be with you guys family . he is not going to grow out of it its tradition.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
It’s a family event. He’s part of the family and you were invited. If it’s an annual event, then you shouldn’t be surprised and could have questioned for time off in plenty of time to go with him.
You might not like camping, but he does. I suggest you try to learn to delight in it the best you can so that he won’t be going off alone on camping trips that you could take with him.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
He has every right to go. He invited you and you can’t/wont. This is tradition with his family and obviously one that means a lot to him. If you have to work and don’t want to go why should he sit at home waiting on you? It would be selfish of you to make him stay home. Those are his parents, he will never outgrow them.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
Of course he should go. It’s his family. And he invited you, didn’t he? It sounds as if you expect him to not spend time with his family and to choose you over his family. This never works and you shouldn’t even start that nonsense. You are not married. And even if you were, he’d still want to see his family. It’s a family tradition and it sounds like you’re being a brat. I reckon you better start liking camping if you plot on staying with him.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
as long as you were invited also it isnt really that terrible…. although as it is easter i wanted to be place as a priority and questioned if i wanted him with me (as we ARE living together)…
it could be excellent if you could sacrifice that weekend of work to go, it might be some fantastic bonding time for you two and with his family, also a fantastic chance to do something new and different… although i do agree with where you are coming from….
have a chat to him, please be open and honest about things because thats what a excellent relationship is about – communication whether you reckon you are right or incorrect, there your feelings and you are entitled to them.
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August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
Like the first user said it seems like he has a fantastic relationship with his family! Fantastic quality in a guy! You should go. If you have to work then go up after you get off. You shouldn’t stop him from keeping his plans especially if it’s something they do every year.
EDIT: I meant the second user.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
sounds like he is really close with his family, these days you can’t really find guys like that. You should try to go with him. If you can’t just let him go with his family, it is a family thing and he sees you as part of the family. It’ll be fun. Let him go, hes just with his family.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
Well, to me you are kind of selfish. I hope you are not like this in other areas of your relationship with him? I do not see what your problem is. He is just hanging with his family. The people who has been in his life before you and will continue to be there after you are gone (hopefully not). Also, since he did invite you to go and you said you had to work, then next time around I would go even if I did not like camping.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
get over yourself, you were invited, its a pity you can’t go, you can’t expect him to cancel his trip with his family just because you have to work, he’s been doing it for like the last 27 years, leave the poor man alone and don’t be so clingy.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
As long as you were invited, it is ok for him to go too. If he excluded you, I would be concerned but he didnt. Obviously these trips are vital to him and a tradition so if I were you, id try and get into camping. Its probably too late to take work off now but next year, try and have the time off around easter. You may not like camping but its special to him. I know you probably want to spend the holiday with your FH but it is tradition and you have known about it for years right? Let him go and plot on joining them next year!
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
Wow. Really. I’m going to try to be nice here.
I reckon that you are really overreacting here. You want him to "grow out" of a family tradition that he does every year? I reckon his family tradition sounds like a lot of fun! Camping? Dirt Biking? That sounds like a blast!
I’m the same age as you. My fiance and I have also been together for two years. I do not consider myself childish. But, I like the same things that your fiance likes.
I reckon that you should be more open minded about doing things that your fiance likes to do. Mine likes to go hunting and I’m a vegetarian. I don’t expect him to "grow out" of hunting just because I don’t like him doing it.
I know that you have to work this time, but why don’t you consider a camping trip with him another time. You might even have fun! Keep and open mind. Talk to him about how you are feeling. Maybe there is something that you like and he doesn’t like that he could do while keeping an open mind, of course.
Relationships are about give and take and understanding and family.
I hope that you can try to change your way of thinking about this because going camping with your family is not a childish thing to do.
Excellent luck and I hope that you don’t find my response mean because I’m not trying to be.
August 17th, 2010 at 12:46 am
Can’t mess with tradition. It is what keeps families together. You should go!